July 9th, 2013. I went on a date looking like this. And don’t worry, I was fine, I just needed to do some tests because of frequent blackouts I was having throughout the year. I remember that day like it was yesterday. It was 4 years ago, and let me just say that I was not as strong as I am today. People were staring (some even seemed disgusted), some were pointing their fingers at me, someone even had the guts to ask me if I had cancer. She probably didn’t mean it in a wrong way, but it shocked me a little. I guess I had a hard time to know the difference between someone mean and someone simply curious. I can't really imagine people with chronic diseases that require feeding tube or people with oxygen tank. They probably deal with this everyday.
This picture reminded me of a few life lessons I've learned. The reason I am posting this is because I want people to be reminded that judgments and opinions aren’t truths. Negative ones are usually empty words and full of ignorance. I'd rather say constructive, but some REALLY are mean. We all have something in common. And that is fighting. Everyday, we fight. We fight for love, forgiveness, survival, freedom, equality… It’s a constant battle, sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. That day, I felt like I was losing and to be honest, it was just a fight with myself. I was scared. Thinking about it today, I realize that I fueled my fear with people's stares and words.
People are judgemental, but they can also be full of love, compassion and kindness and that is how I want to see the world. I'm not saying to ignore the hurt and negativity surrounding us. AND I’m definitely not saying to not care about what other people think. Because who would I be if I didn’t care? Who would you be? If we completely stopped caring, we would close ourselves off on a lot of good things. It’s all about balance, really. We just have to focus on the things we CAN control. On July 9th 2013 and everyday for the rest of my life, I won't be able to control people’s reactions, but I can control mine. Eleanor Roosevelt once said : “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”, and it is true.